'Helping you capture and convey  your  final words and wishes'

Our emotional duty

May 12, 2022

How can you maximise the sensitivity with which your loved ones will be treated if you pass away?


A direct consequence of someone dying is that, despite the grief that their loved ones are experiencing, certain decisions must be made.


These could be about how they celebrate your life and various facets of it, such as music, location, and so on. They might be concerned about who to notify, if they know everyone you'd like to be informed, and whether they should be concerned about if they've followed your wishes. Simply ensure these preferences are communicated to someone able to fulfil them without undue stress.


A less obvious angle is treating those closest to you with special care. You may want to ensure certain people are spoken to personally before they find out another way.


You may also want to avoid surprising somebody or putting them through further emotional stress by letting them hear 3rd hand, months later or dropping surprise messages on them at an inappropriate time.


Finally, regardless of how well-intended, would a direct written message be the most effective manner of communicating? Could a video, audio clip, or image be useful here? Would an anecdote, quote, or memory be the most effective way to express your intended meaning and sensitively making a lasting impression.


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